CLOSE THE DOOR: Why You Keep Comparing Them to Your Ex And How to Stop Before It Costs You the Relationship You Actually Want

CLOSE THE DOOR: Why You Keep Comparing Them to Your Ex And How to Stop Before It Costs You the Relationship You Actually Want

You're having dinner with them, and they're talking about their day.

But you're not really there.

You're thinking about someone who's been gone for months. Maybe years.

And the shame is suffocating.

Because this person next to you is good. They show up. They're consistent. They're available. Everything you said you wanted.

So why does your mind keep going back to someone who hurt you? Someone who left? Someone who was never even fully yours?

You've prayed about it. You've tried to "just move on." You've beaten yourself up for not being "healed enough."

And the thoughts keep coming.

I want to tell you:

You're not possessed. You're not broken. You're not spiritually failing.

Your brain learned patterns in that past relationship that didn't disappear when the relationship ended. And those patterns are running on autopilot, sabotaging the real love that's right in front of you.

This book teaches you how to actually close those doors. Not through prayer alone. Through the mind renewal the Bible actually commands, combined with neuroscience, daily practices, and a 90-day framework that rewires your brain from divided to whole.

By the end of 90 days:

• The intrusive thoughts lose their intensity
• You stop comparing them to your ex before it spirals
• You can be fully present during intimate moments
• The guilt about divided attention finally lifts
• You're free to build what's in front of you instead of mourning what's behind you

This isn't about forgetting your past. It's about stopping your past from destroying your present.